Reflections
People take time. But in our haste, we size them up or cut them down to what we take to be a more manageable size, labeling people instead of trying to hear, understand or welcome them. And we love our labels as ourselves even as they don’t — and can’t — do justice to the complexity of our own lived lives or anyone else’s. It’s as if we’ll do anything to avoid the burden of having to think twice.”
— David Dark
- We all have God-size hole in our hearts
- We also have man-size hole in our hearts
- Paul knows the challenge of life together, but also the gift of life together
- The Challenge
- The moment we think we have figured out someone, relationship with that person tends to go downhill
- Relationship of any kind is work
- Tears as attachment behavior
- To Paul, pain is part of gift
- Pain/sorrow, forgiveness, deeper form of pain
- Old New Yorker article by Richard O. Boyer, on Duke Ellington and his band in working out a collective arrangement, with sound sometimes clashing in the process
